On our honeymoon, as newly-husband and newly-wife, we made "goals" for our first year of marriage. Pray together. Eat breakfast together. Make a point to have time together. We've been pretty okay at our goals thus far. Some weeks have teetered, and certain goals have been less-achieved than others. But, 9 times out of 10, I'm thankful to say that Jake and I go to bed together and wake up in the morning together. He makes breakfast and we sit down together before we start the day. We have dates, even if it means Jake humors me and our "date" is actually him helping me chaperone a field trip for work.
Last night was a 1 out of 10 night. I got home from grad school to a sleeping husband. He had tried to stay awake. There was a movie playing on his computer and all the lights were ablaze, but to no avail. He was conked out, and not one thing in my bedtime routine even stirred him.
I was glad I didn't stir him. I was sad too though. I love snuggling into bed together at night, and I love our sleepy, bedtime conversations. I love laughing over whatever we're laughing over, and falling asleep in the midst of heavy-eyed giggles. This quality time- this goal- is my favorite, I think. I know we're not failures for missing the mark 1 out of 10. There's no grading system. And we both knew, even as honeymooning newlyweds, that grad school on top of full-time work was going to mean some forfeits of our stated goals.
I just wanted to snuggle.
This post is SO sweet. I love that your hubs helps with your school stuff. Chris used to come to dances with me (and not even complain!). And yes, doing the grad school thing is certainly a sacrifice. Sounds like you have a good partner, though. :)
ReplyDeleteSuch sweet goals :D Hopefully you can stick to them most of the time and enjoy a wonderful marriage. Seems like you are really working towards it :D
ReplyDeletei am in grad school too! and i know how this is...those nights that i have to stay up writing are just not fun! it sounds like you guys have a pretty good routine though...
ReplyDeleteI LOVE that you guys set goals for your first year of marriage, that is a fabulous idea. My hubby and I go to bed together every night and try to wake up together in the morning (it is hard because I am an early bird!). I may just have to write down some goals with my hubs!
ReplyDelete@Ruthie Hart: You should! My mom is a list-maker extraordinaire, so I grew up with goal lists hanging on the fridge and consistent checking in on how we were doing with them. It just seemed natural for Jake and I to make a list, but we've already appreciated the accountability to make time together. Its just too easy to get too busy!
ReplyDeleteAww. I love that y'all set goals together. And it's true that not every day will be a 10, but that doesn't mean you failed. It's just all a part of life!
ReplyDeleteWhat a cute picture. Here's to tomorrow :)
ReplyDeleteCute couple :) Balancing grad school and a full time job must be so hard. I am a stay at home mom in grad school and I feel like I'm barely making it some days! 1 out of 10 ain't bad ;) I hope you get to cuddle tomorrow, though.
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